I have three daughters, my oldest married a wonderful man a few years ago, and we adore him. He has embraced married life and fatherhood. My remaining two daughters believe that Sydney did awesome with her husband and hope they find someone with many of the qualities my son-in-law, Treavor, possesses.
My second daughter recently spent the last two semesters of college in Idaho. While she spent a lot of time studying, she also found time for social life and began dating a young man. She felt that he possessed many of the qualities she sought in a future husband. Unfortunately, COVID-19 hit, and her college experience changed, much like everything else. Soon she found herself back in Alaska.
When she first got back, she spoke to this young man on the phone daily. But as time passed, the frequency of their calls decreased to once a week. These infrequent calls made her heart tender, and she felt sad. She began to doubt herself and wondered what she should or could do to change her current circumstances.
Not long after this happened, she was talking to her older sister, Sydney, on the phone about her situation. Sydney was able to give wise counsel. She told her sister, “You are not a snack; you are the most important meal of the day. You are breakfast!” These words rang very true to my daughter. She was NOT a snack.
My wife and I shared our feelings with her as we spoke about my recent deployment. I verbally said, “Goodnight, B” every night as I went to bed. Early the next morning, I sent her a text message first thing as she never left my mind and my heart. We told her that true love and caring would transcend miles if a relationship was meant to be. Although it was difficult, our daughter eventually realized that she was not Breakfast to this young man.
What type of relationship with the Lord do we try to cultivate? A snack or breakfast? The scripture in KJV Revelations 22:13 reads, “I am the Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end, the first and the last.” First thing in the morning and last in the evening. Much like my daughter’s relationship, do we treat our relationship with the Savior as one of convenience or meaning and substance?
How often do we talk with the Lord? The scripture in KJV 1 Thessalonians 5:17 gives guidance. “Pray without ceasing.” I must admit that I do not pray as often as I should. There are times when my relationship with the Savior feels more like a snack than a breakfast; but I have also found that much like eating, you can only snack for so long before you crave a real meal.
How many of us have had “Breakfast” for dinner? My kids love that meal, and why is it? Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. We crave the nourishment that it offers over time. Similarly, our relationship with the Savior provides strength. If we are in tune with the spirit, we will realize that the quick snacks of distracted prayer, cursory scripture reading, or disengaged church attendance do not satisfy the needs of our souls. We crave a relationship with the Savior that will sustain us through life.
It is my prayer that as we ponder our relationship with the Lord that we ask ourselves, is it a snack, or is it breakfast?
Dr. John Boston is a father, husband, grandfather, local physician, member of the Mat-Su Board of Trustees and Colonel in the Alaska Air National Guard. He believes in Christ and is a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.